Sunday Sunday!! :)

This weekend was pretty lazy weekend..... which was very nice. I had to work Saturday until noon, which was not too bad. My son got a job!! Yes I am very proud of him! He likes and and takes it very seriously.. a little more than school it seems. He wants to add to his bank account, to save for a car. He is now sleeping! LOL.. getting up at 6 am and working until 3, on Saturday and Sunday are rough for a teen! Making a nice dinner Beef Stronganoff.... off for now,.. he has risen from his slumber.. so dinner and a game of cards or board game.:)
Until Next time,
Love Tara

You have to make it happen!

The other day I received a phone call from someone I had not spoken to in years. As the conversation progressed, it became apparent that she was struggling financially. She is a very educated woman, that is married with a child. Her and her Husband are are musicians , they are not making any money. I suggested that she get a job in the meantime until they get a steady gig, since her husband is home as well. He could watch the baby. I was told she cant leave the 2 year old, she nurses and cant pump, baby would not like if she was gone. But how will the baby like not having a home? Or food, water, electricity? So I suggest getting a part time job waitressing, when baby is sleeping, or a coffee shop, retail, cleaning anything. She is appalled that I suggest that since she has a degree and would not work for such a little job. OK but your degree is making you money by you doing nothing with it? Don't think so. Here she is no money on the verge of being homeless, or whatever it may be, and she is too educated to work??? So I went on to tell her that after my sons father passed away, and he was a newborn I went to school. I also worked 2 jobs! I did this for about 5 years. Now I own 2 businesses and work my tail off. Now I am able to enjoy life, and do what I would like... all that from started from two $10.00 and hour jobs for me! No one is going to rescue anyone, you have to do it your self! So I say suck it up... sometimes you have to do what you don't want to do, to get where you want to be.

The Oscars~~ for mom too.

I watched some of the Oscars last night... but missed Sandra Bullocks speech and award. She gave all the moms tribute, and made us all feel like we won an oscar too.
It also made me think of all fights with our kids to do the right things, making them mad at us.. Having rules the find silly, and feeling like we are not getting through to them. This clip make it all go away, and know that we are raiseing children that can turn out like Sandra Bullock.
Enjoy the clip!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9y8wpF4CAs

Magic Dust??

Today was well down right awful, it started last night and creeped into today..until about noon nothing looked like it would ever be OK. I needed something to fix everything.. I was overwhelmed. Big time. So I was able to vent to a good friend. And she made me mad. Told me that I am a strong woman, and I will overcome this, and not to let it get me down. That I always am able to move on in the right light. Well I was not happy with her. I did not want to fix it, I am tired of always having to fix things, and scramble at the last minute. No I am not going to be ok, I am done I told her. So all day I was annoyed. Until I breathed in a huge cloud of dust at work... that made sneeze like crazy, then made me laugh. After that I was smiling...guess what, when you smile you cannot stay mad. Impossible to do. So I smiled like a crazy person to keep feeling better. I knew now that even though things are not as I wanted them, and will still be hard, I would be OK. All my day needed was little magic dust to make me smile.

Snow..again.. but turn that around....

We have more snow again! Which means that no school for the kids again. So they have had about a week off from snow in the past 2 weeks. Normally I would be going coo coo! But I have been trying to see positive and turn things around to make them good. So I was thinking.. instead of complaining that I am stuck in the house with the kids again, I would be thankful that I have a home to live in, that I have heat, and 2 kids that really are blessings. To be grateful for what you have and find the positive. It will make you much happier... and not want to lock your self in the closet until school starts again! Until next time, Love Tara

Go on vacation... for a LONG TIME

OK.. today was a great day, got to hang out with my niece and nephew... they are little baby's! It was great, played, changed diapers(ewww!) rocked..As overwhelming as baby's can be it was easier then..I think! Such a change when I get home. I come home to attitudes... from both kids. The older is not doing well in school, and really doesn't seem to care. Wants to drop out and get a GED.. NO WAY is that going to happen. Nothing I do is right, hate and lack or respect ooze out of this one. And I was told that I am not respected as well. But then asks me to drive them somewhere?? Hello? The other one has temper tantrums and yells to get out of doing anything, and when bothered by the other one. So that child was sent to their room for the night, and went oh so easy.. not! So as a parent what do you do? Do you say fine, screw your life up..I am done and can't do this.. or continue in an endless battle that never goes anywhere and things stay the same. And makes you want to go on vacation for a long time, alone!

Setting the record straight

Hello everyone!

The website is up and running again. check it out! http://www.taraewalt.com/

I have decided that I am going to load a video stream up weekly, so you can get advice, engage and be a part of this site! This is taking the place of the Cd's, which I had originally planned to charge a fee in order to cover cost of producing and shipping them. As a single mom, I really do not think it is the thing that I want to do. I created my site in order to help motivate, inspire and assist single mothers, and not to profit from their difficulties. Also to be able to speak at venues that single moms would attend. Recently I have received several posts about how I am rotten for charging for things However this is very wrong since I am NOT charging any single moms for products or to view my site. I started "Single Momma Drama..no more!" Because this is something I am passionate about. I think that single moms need to have a place where they are validated and get help they need. Some ask what makes me an expert on this? Well I am not an expert. Instead, I am a woman who has been a single mom for over 14 years, and have learned many things along the way. I have not always done things correctly, but I always have done the best that I can and learned at every step. This is what I want you as a single mom to be ... the best that you can! Until next time...with Love, Tara

Teenagers....

Ok.....My son has the same thing to do 2xs a week... same day,,, same time.. but can never remember.!!!!! He has forgotten to take the trash to the curb for about 3 weeks... so it is in front of my house now piled in cans, neatly. I would not do it, trying to make him do his chore! However by me trying to prove a point and not taking it out to the curb, the toownship came to my door to give me a fine. So I called the trash co and the soonest they can come is on Friday our next pickup date. So I am thinking, maybe I should forget to feed him? Forget to drive him places? Forget to pay his cell bill? He did get me a rose Vday.... he remebered that! But I am still annoyed about the trash.

Lets get it started!! Whoo hooo

OK... this blog is about how we as Sms ( single moms) feel, about how to make our live better, and be great moms. I do not spout statistics or surveys on the life of Sms.. I talk about my life, and how I perceive things. And solutions to issues that I think work.

If you have ideas solutions or comments, post away!


One of my dearest and longest friends just left, our kids are close which is very nice as well! She moved about 20 minutes from our old neighbor hood, than I moved farther from her. :( So when we get together it is always nice! She suggested that I start this blog, to add to my Motivational Speaking... and I thought this was an EXCELLENT idea... so thanks to you C!!!
She left due to the fact that we are getting MORE snow... whoopee freaking do!! I have had these kids in the house since last Wed... I am praying that they go to school tomorrow!!! I think I may go get a bottle of wine... lol... But I cant do that because my teenager called to see if I can pick him up from a friends.. that he walked to earlier. How is it I can not get him to do a thing, but he expects me to jump and run for him?? Until next time, Tara

Starting to blog...About me

Hi everyone...well who ever is there! I am Tara Ewalt a motivational speaker for single moms. I lost my fiancee to an act of violence when I was 8 months pregnant with my son. No life insurance, I went back to work as a Dental Assistant, and waitress, and went to school part time. While I was working in the dental office I developed a life threatening allergy to latex. I would up going into cardiac arrest, then had a minor stroke. After I was out of the hospital, I had to start over and find a new career. I also remarried, had my daughter and was divorced 2 years later. I then was left to start over. I then started my own business, You've Got It Maid. And went back to school. I had had the business for 9 years, and starting Motivational Speaking for Single Moms this year. I hope to inspire and help other single moms through this journey.

I also have a fan page on Facebook...stop by and become a fan!
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